ZITSANZO ZOTHANDIZA. Anthu enieni omwe atuluka akukhala moyo wa LGBT. Akhala ndi upangiri waluso, chilimbikitso chaumunthu kuchokera kwa abwenzi ndi mabanja ndipo ngati angafune, pemphero. Izi ndi zomwe maboma akufuna kuti aletse, kuwatcha kusintha kwachithandizo.

Anthu anayi m'mavidiyo, ndipo anthu enanso 13 agawana nkhani zolembedwa patsamba lino.

Kanema woyamba wa mphindi 10 ali ndi kanthawi kocheperako pamafunso anayi ataliatali kuti apereke mwachidule za anthu anayi omwe agawana nkhani zawo za kutuluka m'miyoyo yawo ya LGBT. Ena amafotokoza za upangiri “wa kutembenuka mtima” womwe unkawathandiza.

Amalankhulanso za zopweteketsa zomwe amakumana nazo ndi aphungu akudziko omwe akufuna kukakamiza zikhulupiriro zawo, kuyesera kutsimikizira zomwe amachitirana kuti azigonana.

Mafunso anayi athunthu atha kumvetsera pano.

Werengani kapena Mverani Ena Omwe Akugawana Nkhani Zawo.

Andrew P.

Ndinali ndi zaka 24, nditafika kutchalitchi kwathu komwe ndimapitako, kuti ndikathandizike pakukhumudwa komanso kukopa amuna kapena akazi anzawo. Sindinkafuna kukhala ndi chidwi ndi kugonana komweko. Ndinkakhala ndi anzanga omwe anali ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ndinalibe nazo vuto nawo, koma kwa ine ndekha, sindinkafuna. Sizinapite pachimake pakukhulupirira, ndipo ndinkafuna kukhala ndi mkazi ndi ana mtsogolo. Chifukwa chake paulendo wanga ndidapeza thandizo kudzera paupangiri ndi mapemphero m'matchalitchi osiyanasiyana ndi mautumiki. Izi zidapezeka ku Melbourne Victoria. Palibe kamodzi komwe ine ndidakakamizidwapo kapena kumandimverera woyipa ndi mipingo iyi kapena mautumiki. Amavomereza anthu a LGBT, okonda komanso okonda, nthawi zina sindinadziwe ngati angandithandizire kusintha. Nthawi zonse ndimawonetsedwa chikondi ndi ufulu wochita zomwe ndinkafuna zokhudzana ndi kugonana kwanga komweko.

Izi, kudzera mukulangizidwa komanso kupemphera ndi matchalitchi ndi mautumiki, zidathandiza kukhumudwa kwanga kutha ndikuchotsa nkhawa zanga. Mukupita kwa nthawi kukopeka kwanga komweko. Momwe ndimalemba izi ndili ndi zaka za 35, ndine wokwatiwa mosangalala ndi ana awiri ndipo ndikungofuna kukhala ndi mkazi wanga. Sindikudandaula kukwatiwa ndipo sindimaganizira zodzakwatirana. Ndimakonda moyo wanga ndipo ndikudziwa kuti ndi chifukwa cha mauthengawa ndi mipingo, pamodzi ndi Mulungu, zomwe zandisintha. Njira zamtunduwu ndizachikondi komanso zothandiza. Sindikumvetsa chifukwa chake pali gulu loletsa izi.

A Ruth E.

Ndikofunikira kuti ife-amuna kapena akazi omwe timagwirizana ndi anthu omwe ali m'mavuto kapena zowawa atha kupeza thandizo lomwe timakumana nalo. Ndinafufuza utumiki wachikhristu kuti undithandizire kuthana ndi chilakolako chofuna kugonana ndi amuna anzanga, chifukwa mabungwe amanyalanyaza kapena kutsutsana ndi mbali ya chikhulupiriro, chifukwa chake sindimatha kukhala nawo momasuka. Mwamwayi, ndidapeza utumiki wachikhristu wokhudzana ndi kusweka kwa ubale, osayesa kulonjeza kapena kukakamiza chilichonse. Kusamalira kwawo kunapulumutsa moyo wanga, kunachepetsa chisokonezo changa komanso kuvutika kwanga, kunandipatsa anzanga omvetsetsa kuti ndilankhule nawo, kunabwezeretsa thanzi langa laumunthu pazaka ziwiri zotsatira, ndipo tikulumikizanabe, zaka 5 pambuyo pake. Chonde pezani ena ngati ine kuti asatenge njira yoyipitsitsa.

Steve W.

Ndidayamba "kutuluka" nditakhala wachinyamata mu 20s yanga yoyambirira ndipo ngakhale sindinkafuna kuchita zofananirana ndi amuna anzanga, ndimakhala ndimtendere ndi omwe ndinali. Posakhalitsa, ndidatsimikiza mtima ndipo ndidasankha kukhala moyo wosakwatira komanso kutumikira Mulungu mu utumiki wachikhristu. Sipanatenge nthawi kuti ndinakumana ndi mtsikana wachikhristu yemwe amandisilira, koma ndinali ndisanamvepo m'mbuyomu (mpaka nthawi imeneyo ndimakhala ndikuzindikira kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha)

Thandizo lomwe ndidapempha kutchalitchi changa komweko kuti lithandizire kuzindikira zonsezi lidandithandizira kukhazikitsa malingaliro anga azakugonana pamayendedwe atsopano. Ndikufuna kunena motsimikiza kuti, m'masiku akale, kapena m'malangizo anzeru kwambiri pambuyo pake, sizinachitikepo zamankhwala zilizonse zomwe zimatchedwa 'Reparative Therapy'. Gay kuwongoka sikunali cholinga. Zomwe ndakumana nazo sizinakakamizidwe, machitidwe onga obwereza kapena malingaliro omwe ndiyenera kuyesa njira yabodza. Mosiyana ndi izi, ndidakumana ndi chikondi chopanda malire komanso thandizo ndi chilimbikitso chongopereka moyo wanga m'manja mwa Mulungu (zomwe ndidachita kale) ndikugawana zogonana zanga kwa Iye. Tsopano ndili m'ma 40 anga omaliza ndipo ndabwera kudzaphunzira kuti pali zovuta zina zomwe zimachitika mwachangu, koma nditha kunena moona mtima kuti ndikumva bwino mu ubale ndimakonda kwambiri zogonana ndi mkazi wanga kuposa kale. Kuyambira pano ndidazindikira kuti panali zinthu zambiri zomwe zimapangitsa kuti ndikhale ndi chilakolako chogonana, zomwe ndimakhala ndi mwayi wopitilira, mwayi womwe ukadandifikitsa, ndikadakhala kuti ndakanidwa thandizo lomwe lidandipeza m'zaka zonsezi.

Ndakumana ndi abambo ndi amayi ena omwe ali ndi umboni wofanana, ena mwa iwo omwe ndi abwenzi abwino, komanso omwe sanamveke ndi chidwi ndi omwe si amuna kapena akazi anzawo, koma asankha kusakwatirana monga momwe ndidalili kale, komanso ena omwe asankha kuvomereza zomwe amalingalira amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndipo amayesetsa kuyesa kuyanjanitsa izi ndi chikhulupiriro chawo chachikristu - Ndimawakonda onse, ngakhale timasiyana pakukhulupirira. Ndapezekanso pamisonkhano ya maubwino a chiwerewere ochokera kuzungulira fuko lonse ndipo ndinganene moona mtima, kuti palibe chomwe ndawonapo kapena chomwe ndidamva chomwe chimafanana ndi zoukitsa za 'Reparative Therapy' zomwe amati zimachitika ndi magulu otere. Apanso, m'malo mwake, timalimbikitsidwa kwambiri pakudzipatulira ku machitidwe otere.

Mpaka pano, sindinapange nyimbo ndikuvina zokhudzana ndi zomwe ndakumana nazo, koma ndakhala ndikusokonezedwa ndi gulu laling'ono laling'ono kuti litseke mautumiki oombolera zachiwerewere kuchokera kwa anthu omwe amalandila chithandizo, chomwe ndi kuphwanya ufulu wawo pakutsimikiza mtima! Momwemonso thandizo liyenera kupezeka kwa iwo omwe akufuna kuti agwirizane ndi zomwe amafuna, azithandizabe. Chifukwa chake, ndimakhala wokakamizidwa kuti "nditulukenso", sindimagwiranso ntchito ngati gay. Ngati anthu sakhulupirira Mulungu kapena ziphunzitso za Baibulo, ali ndi ufulu wosankha njira ina, koma chonde musakane anthu ena omwe akufuna kutsatira chikhulupiriro chawo mwayi wofanana ndi ine ngati atero ndikufuna.

Andy W.

Chonde osaletsa zomwe mukutcha "Therapy Therapy." Mukudzinenera kuti ndizovulaza ndipo zitha kupangitsa anthu kuti adziphe, koma ndapeza OPOSITE. Ndinkasilira komanso kudzipha ndisanalangidwe, ndipo ndili wodekha komanso wokondwa tsopano. Upangiri (kapena "Kutembenuza Therapy") udayang'ana chifukwa chomwe ndidapeza amuna ena okongola komanso chifukwa chomwe ndimayang'ana zolaula zamtundu wina, koma ndidayesa malingaliro anga amisala omwe amachokera ku zovuta zingapo zaubwana. Upangiri womwe udakambirana izi zimagwirizana ndi zomwe ndimakhulupirira (komanso motsutsana ndi LGBTQI +) ndipo tsopano ndilibe mkangano wamkati, ndilibe chidwi chodzivulaza, ndikumva kukhala wotetezeka, wolimba mtima komanso wodekha. Ndimafotokoza mwachindunji zakusangalatsazi ndi upangiri womwe ena angautchule kuti "chithandizo cha kutembenuka". Chonde osawuletsa uphungu wamtunduwu.

Emma T.

Ndine Mkristu koma ndakumananso ndi chidwi chofananana ndipo ndimachita zachiwerewere zaka 4 m'mbuyomu ma 20. Monga mkhristu, ndimadziwa za chiphunzitso cha M'baibulo pa zakugonana ndi maubwenzi ndipo ndimafuna kukhala ndi moyo wolemekeza Mulungu. Ndinazindikira za gulu la akhristu achikristu kumwera kwa Sydney komwe ndimakumana ndi azibambo ndi amayi ena achikristu omwe amakopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha koma akusankha kukhala moyo mwanjira ya Mulungu. Gulu lothandizirali lidandipulumutsa. Ndinatha kuyankhula ndi ena munyengo yofanana ndi yomwe sindinaweruzidwe ndipo idandithandizira munjira yomwe ndidasankha. Ndinakulitsa kumvetsetsa kwanga kwa chikondi cha Mulungu kwa ine ndi kufunika kwanga ndi kufunikira kwa iye. Ndisanalandire thandizoli, ndinali ngati ndinasungulumwa, ndinali wokhumudwa komanso wopanda chiyembekezo, koma nditapita ku gululi ndidalimbikitsidwa. Ndinalowa nawo pagulu lothandizira momwe ndinapeza kuti lothandiza komanso lopatsa moyo. Kenako ndidapitilira kutsogolera gululi ndi gulu lina nawonso momwe ndimafuna kuthandiza ndi kupatsa chiyembekezo kwa ena monga ndidakumana ndi ine.

Ndikumvetsetsa kuti malamulo akukambirana ku Victoria zomwe zingalepheretse chithandizo chonga ichi kuti chizikhala chovomerezeka mtsogolo. Chonde osayimitsa magulu othandizira ngati awa kuti athe kupitiliza. Anthu ali ndi ufulu wodziyimira pawokha ndikusankha njira yomwe ili yoyenera. Chonde onani nkhani yanga komanso ufulu wa anthu kusankha zozikika modzikhulupirira pazomwe akukhala. Tifunikiranso thandizo.

Pete N.

Ndinasokonezeka kwambiri kumva kuti lamuloli liperekedwa pamaso pa nyumba yamalamulo kuti ayese ndi kuletsa anthu kuti asafunefune thandizo chifukwa chokhala amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ndikumvetsetsa kuti anthu ena anali ndi zokumana nazo zaka zambiri zapitazo ndi zomwe anthu ena amazitcha “chithandizo cha kutembenuka mtima”. Ndipo ndimawakonda anthu amenewo. Zomwe ndakumana nazo ku Tchalitchi sizinali ngati nkhani zina zomwe zimawoneka ngati zikupangitsa mutu. Ndimalankhula ngati munthu yemwe anali membala wa zipembedzo zosiyana za 4 zachikunja cha 30. Ndipo ndidasiyanso Tchalitchi zaka 14 kuti ndikhale moyo wogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ndipo iyi ndi nkhani yanga.

M'kati mwa 30 yanga ndidachoka ku Tchalitchi kuti ndikafufuze zaomwe ndikuwona ngati zingandikwaniritse. Poyamba, ndidakhudzidwa ndi makalabu onse ndi nyali zowala ndi maphwando. Kuphatikizidwa ndi chidwi chonse chomwe mumalandira kukhala "munthu watsopano" mgululi. Ndidakhala zaka 14 m'makhalidwe amenewo ndipo ndidakumana ndi munthu wodabwitsa kwambiri nthawi imeneyo. Tidali pamodzi zaka zoposa 6. Ndimamukondabe kwambiri ngati bwenzi. Banja lake linali anthu odabwitsa kwambiri. Adandikumbatira ndikundiphatikiza pazonse zomwe adachita. Sindinathe kuwaimba mlandu. Koma ngakhale ndimakhala ndi bwenzi lodabwitsa ili lomwe limandibata ngati mfumu, ndimadzuka pakati pausiku misozi ili m'maso mwanga. Khalidwe lomwe ndimaganiza kuti lingandibweretsere chisangalalo, lidandibweretsera nkhawa zakuya chifukwa silinandipatse mtendere wamkati womwe umabwera kokha chifukwa chodziwa Mulungu. Ichi ndi chinthu chosatheka kufotokozera munthu yemwe sanakhale mkhristu komanso wokhala ndi ubale wa DEEP ndi Mulungu.

Pambuyo pazaka 10 ndidayamba kufunafuna njira yopulumukira. Pambuyo pake ndidakumana ndi Renew ndikulumikizana ndi atsogoleri ena. Adakumana ndi khofi. Anandipatsa chiyembekezo komanso kundidziwitsa kuti anthu ambiri achoka mu moyo wawo ndikupeza mtendere womwe ndimafuna. Palibe konse pomwe anthu awa adayeserapo kundikakamiza kapena kundikakamiza kuti ndisinthe moyo wanga. Zinalinso chimodzimodzi ndimatchalitchi onse anayi omwe ndidapitako pazaka zambiri. Palibe mtsogoleri kapena munthu amene adandikana chifukwa ndimalimbana ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Anandifikira mwachikondi monga momwe ndikanathera ndipo amandithandiza pondipemphera nthawi zovuta m'moyo wanga. Adagawana zomwe bible lidanenazi pamutu wankhani yogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndipo adafotokoza zomwe aliyense amafuna. Koma zinali kwa ine ngati ndimalandira uthengawo kapena kuukana. Nditha kungotamandila anthu ndi atsogoleri onse ochokera m'Mipingo yomwe ndidakhala zaka zambiri zapitazo. Ndipo makamaka RENEW chifukwa choyimirira pambali panga pomwe ndidatenga zaka zina 5 ndisanasankhe kusiya moyo. Palibe pamene adandikakamiza kapena kundikakamiza kusiya moyo womwewo. Nthawi zambiri anali komweko ngati phewa kuti alire. Wina yemwe nditha kumufotokozera yemwe amadziwa zomwe ndimavutika nazo ndipo amatha kuzidziwa. Ndimalemekeza iwo omwe adayima pafupi ndi ine munyengo yamoyo wanga. Pomwe amalimbana ndi chizunzo chambiri kuchokera ku gulu la LGBTIQ.

Ndi ufulu wanji womwe gulu la anthu liyenera kuyesera ndikundiuza kuti ndisafunefune kuchokera pa moyo womwe ndidasankha kuchita. Kaya ndi kudzera mu Mpingo kapena bungwe lina. Ndili ndi ufulu wokwanira kusiya MOYO nthawi iliyonse yomwe ndikufuna, momwe ayenera kukhalira ndikasankha. Koma palibe amene ali ndi ufulu wokakamiza lingaliro lawo pa linalo.

Lero ndili ndi zaka 2 kuchokera munjira imeneyi ndipo moyo wanga ukukhala chilichonse chomwe ndimafuna. Ndili ndi mtendere womwe palibe munthu amene angalande. Ndimadziona kuti ndine wodalitsika kukhala ndi banja lachikondi la Tchalitchi la anthu osiyanasiyana omwe amayimirira pafupi nane ndikundichirikiza paulendo wanga.

Ngati anthu akufuna kukhala moyo wachimuna, ndiye kuti ayenera kukhala ndi mwayi wochita izi. Momwemonso, ngati anthu akufuna kusiya moyo womwewo, ayenera kuloledwa kufunafuna thandizo mwa njira iliyonse yomwe angasankhe.

Lyn B.

Nthawi yoyamba ndinapita kuutumiki wachikhristu ku 1994 kuti ndithandizidwe kukopa amuna kapena akazi omwe. Sindinkafuna kukopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi chifukwa siimagwirizana ndi chikhulupiriro changa chachikristu komanso chifukwa sizomwe ndimadziwika koma zimayambitsa zomwe zidakumana ndi zovuta pamoyo wanga. Kudzera muutumikiwu ndidalandira thandizo lomwe ndimafuna kuti ndiyambe kuthana ndi chidwi changa ndikupeza machiritso amkati. Zinanditengera zaka zochepa koma mothandizidwa ndi ulalikiwu komanso mautumiki ena achikhristu, abusa ndi abwenzi achikhristu ndatha kuthana nawo ndipo tsopano ndili ndi ufulu wa kukopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi. Ndikukhudzidwa kwambiri kuti thandizo lomweli mwina silingakhalepo mtsogolo kwa ena omwe amalifunafuna. Mwachidziwikire kudzera muzochitika zanga ndi chidziwitso cha ena ambiri ogonjetsa kukopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndizotheka ndi chithandizo choyenera. Chonde osakana anthu ufulu wothandizidwa ndi izi komanso mwayi wawo wokhala ndi moyo mogwirizana ndi zikhulupiriro zawo komanso chizindikiritso cha Mulungu wawo. Chonde osangowasiya kuti akumane ndi mkangano uwu.

Dani ézard.

Ndikulemberani kalata yanga kuti ndikugawireni umboni pazakuchitikira kwanu kosintha, komanso nkhawa zanga za ufulu wachipembedzo pazovomerezeka zomwe zikhale mu Victoria. Sindikonda kusadziwika.

Ndine mayi waku Australia yemwe amakopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amene akufuna kuteteza ufulu wachipembedzo zoletsedwa ku Victoria. Ndapindula ndi zomwe Health Complaint Commissioner (HCC) imatanthauzira kuti "machitidwe otembenuza". Zomwe ndakumana nazo pa izi ndathandizidwa ndi alangizi achikristu "kuphatikizapo kuyesetsa kuthetseratu kugonana / kapena kukondana" Ndili nawo kwa akazi ena, komanso thandizo pakusintha kamvedwe anga pankhani yogonana kuti agwirizane ndi chikhalidwe chachikhalidwe chachiKhristu. Ndayang'ana upangiri / upangiri uwu ku Northern Territory komwe ndinakulira, komanso kuchokera kwa mlangizi ku Victoria. Ndakumana ndi kuchepa kwa nkhawa, kufotokozeredwa bwino, malingaliro abwenzi, komanso kuthandiza bwino anthu kudzera munjira zotembenuka, zomwe mwa chidziwitso changa zimatchedwa upangiri wachikhristu kapena upangiri. Ndikukhudzidwa kuti kuletsa kumeneku sikumangoteteza okhawo omwe adakumana ndi zovuta pakusintha, komanso anthu ngati ine omwe adapindula ndi upangiri wachikhristu womwe ukugwirizana ndi tanthauzo la kutembenuka mtima kwa HCC. Ndikukhulupirira kwambiri kuti kuletsa kutembenukira kumbali ya ufulu wachipembedzo KULI Koyenera. ”

John D.

Ndinaona kuti utumikiwu, 'Madzi Okhala Panja' unali wothandiza kwambiri chifukwa umandipatsa malo otetezeka komanso owona mtima pofotokoza zakukhosi kwanga komanso momwe ndimadziwira zogonana panthawi yomwe ndimakhulupirira. Utumikiwu komanso upangiri wina wapadera wokhudzana ndi nkhanza zandithandizira kwambiri kuphatikiza ine monga munthu wamkulu ndikuyanjanitsa chikhulupiriro changa ndi zokonda zanga zakugonana.

Robson T.

Chapakati pa zaka eyiti ndagonekedwa m'chipatala chachikulu cha Victoria. Madotolo atazindikira kuti kuyambira ndili mwana ndikadakonda kuti ndikadakonda kukhala wamkazi m'malo mwa wamwamuna ndidapezeka ndi Gender Identity Disorder (GID) ndikulimbikitsa kuti ndichitenso opaleshoni yogonana (SRS) monga njira yokhayo yomwe ndingachitire khalani okonzeka kuthana ndi mavutowa ndikukhala ndi moyo wokwaniritsidwa. {Matendawa adanyalanyazidwa ndipo sanasungidwenso.}

Ku chipatala ndidakumana ndi magawo angapo ndi madokotala pawokha komanso ena ndi ena omwe analipo. Inali kuperekedwa kwa SRS 'pambale' - koma ndinakana. Madokotala omwe ankandithandiza nthawi yomweyo adasiya chidwi ndipo adandithamangitsa kuchipatala.

Nditangotulutsidwa kumene, ndinakhala Mkristu, popeza ndinayamba kudana ndi Chikhristu. Ndinalimbikira ndi chikhulupiriro changa chatsopanochi. Akhristu anzathu anali amantha, osakhala otsutsana ndi m'mbuyomu. Komabe, patapita nthawi ndinakumana ndi kagulu kakang'ono ka okhulupilira omwe amamvetsetsa ndikuchirikiza malingaliro anga. Pang'onopang'ono, ndikupitilira kuyang'ana chikhulupiriro changa, kukhudzana kwa amuna ndi akazi kumachepa.

M'zaka zotsatira ndakumanapo ndi anthu ambiri omwe akumanapo ndi zofanana. Popeza tapita patsogolo pakuwonetsetsa kuti kusasiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi mothandizidwa ndi anthu amodzi-m'modzi komanso magulu ang'onoang'ono - sikuyenera kukhala achikhristu. Mu zaka zomwezi ndakhala ndi mwayi wokumana ndi madokotala komanso akatswiri azachipatala omwe ali ndi luso lapadera onse omwe agogomezera kuti palibe sayansi yapamwamba yotsimikizira lingaliro loti kukakamira pakati pa amuna kapena akazi okha kungathetsedwe mwa opaleshoni.

Lero, tsopano ndili ndi zaka makumi asanu ndi awiri, ndikuwonetsetsa kuti boma likuyesetsa kusintha malingaliro amtunduwu komanso zikhalidwe zofananira ndikuletsa mwalamulo anthu oterowo ndi magulu ochira. Kuletsa magulu oterewa ndi anthu oterowo zingakhale zofanana, mwa lingaliro langa, malamulo okakamiza mamembala a Alcoholics Anonymous kuti azikakumana m'malo osungirako zakumwa.

Marie H.

Ndikulemba izi kuti ndigawane za chithandizo chodabwitsa chomwe ndalandira pazaka zapitazi za 15 kapenanso m'dera lokopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ndidali ndi chidwi chosagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha momwe ndingakumbukire (mwina kuyambira wazaka 8 kapena 9 osachepera) ndipo ndidazindikira ku sekondale kuti awa sanali malingaliro omwe anthu ambiri adakumana nawo.

Ndinakhala mkhristu pomwe ndinali pafupifupi 20 ndipo chifukwa chakutsimikiza kwanga kotheratu kuti kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sikunali gawo la cholinga cha Mulungu pamoyo wanga ndidafunafuna thandizo kuthana ndi zokopa ndi malingaliro osayenera omwe ndidakumana nawo. NDINAFUNA thandizo ndipo ndiri othokoza kwambiri kuti ndinachipeza chifukwa iyi inali nthawi yovuta kwambiri m'moyo wanga. Ndinkadziona ngati wotayika komanso wosokonezeka ndipo ndinali ndimafunso ambiri. Ndinali nditawerenga mabuku omwe amafotokoza kuti kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha si chinthu chomwe mumabadwa nacho, koma china chake chomwe chimayamba kudzera chifukwa cha zinthu zina m'moyo wanu. Ndazindikira kuti izi ndi zoona m'moyo wanga.

Ndidagwiriridwa pomwe ndinali 8 kapena 9, sindinkalumikizana bwino ndi amayi anga motero ndimafuna chikondi kuchokera kwa akazi achikulire, ndipo ndili ndi abambo omwe amandizunza ndikumawaletsa ndikumukana ndi amuna. Ndinapita pagulu lothandizana ndi omwe ndinapeza kuti limandithandiza kwambiri, kuti ndizitha kukambirana ndikuyendera nkhani zina ndi anthu ena omwe anali ndi nkhani zofanana. Ndidafunsanso upangiri payekha, womwe ndidakhala ndikuchita kwa zaka zambiri. Izi zinandithandizanso kwambiri ndipo nthawi zambiri zinali zomwe zimandipatsa nthawi yovuta kwambiri. Ndatha kuyankhula ndi anthu ambiri m'matchalitchi omwe adandichirikiza chifukwa cha chikondi chawo, pemphero ndi chithandizo.

Ndine munthu wosiyana ndi masiku ano. Ndagwiritsa ntchito zambiri mwazakale izi ndipo ndapeza machiritso ambiri. Ndili ndi ena omwe angayime nane pafupi pazikhulupiriro zanga ndikupitilizabe kundipempherera ndikakumana ndi mavuto mderali. Ndimakondabe kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha koma ndizochepa kwambiri kwa ine masiku ano kuposa momwe zinalili 15 zaka zapitazo. Sichiri ngati kudya ndipo si momwe ndimadzifotokozera. Ndine Mkhristu woyamba komanso woyamba. Tsopano ndili pabanja ndipo ndili ndi banja losangalala.

Sindikudziwa kuti ndikadapulumuka bwanji popanda thandizo lomwe ndidalandira, kuchokera kumatchalitchi, anthu payekha komanso mabungwe omwe adandithandizira m'njira zambiri pazaka zambiri. Pali enanso ambiri ngati ine omwe akufuna thandizo masiku ano, ndipo ndani akafuna mtsogolo. Pali ambiri omwe ndimawadziwa m'moyo wama gay omwe alibe chisangalalo ndipo angafune njira yotuluka koma samakhulupirira kuti ndizotheka chifukwa zakhala zikuzunza makosi athu (ndi LGBTQ + media / ajenda) kuti kusintha sikungatheke ndipo kuti anthu amabadwa ali ndi gay, motero palibe njira yotuluka ndipo ayenera 'kungovomereza okha'. Ngati anthu asankha kupitiliza kukhala motere, ndiwo chisankho chawo. Komabe, ngati anthu 'asankha' kusiya moyo wa LGBTQ ndipo akufuna kuthandizidwa, ndizosankhanso (ndi zanga).

Sitiyenera kuletsedwa kufunafuna thandizo chabe chifukwa chakuti ena safuna kuthandizidwa. Palibe chithandizo / 'chithandizo chothandizira' chomwe chimakakamizidwa kwa aliyense. Ngati anthu akufuna thandizo ndikusintha malingaliro, amatha kuchoka. Koma musachotse mwayi kwa ife omwe tikufuna ndikuyamikira ndikufunika thandizo. Ngati simukuletsa izi, kuphatikizaponso kupemphera, upangiri, ndi zina zambiri, mudzaumva za anthu omwe amafuna chithandizo koma osachipeza ndipo atenga miyoyo yawo, chifukwa adzangokhala osakhudzidwa ndi kukopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo ndipo akukhulupirira kuti kulibe kutuluka.

Ndife dziko laufulu. Chifukwa chake, ndikukudandaulirani, musamaletse 'mankhwalawa' omwe andithandiza kwambiri ine ndi ena ambiri omwe ndimawadziwa. Lolani anthu akhale ndi ufulu wosankha kufunafuna chithandizo ngati angafune. Thandizo ili ndi chikondi chomwe ndalandira ndi mphatso yamtengo wapatali kwambiri yomwe ndidalandirapo. Ndikupemphera kuti ena akhale ndi mwayi wofanana ndi womwe ndakhala nawo.

Irene C

Dzina langa ndine Irene ndipo inenso ndimunthu wachimodzimodzi wakristu. Ndinakulira ku Western Sydney mu 80's ndipo ndinali ndi vuto launyamata chifukwa chogwiriridwa, kugwiriridwa, kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo komanso kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa kuti athane ndi izi. Mankhwalawa ndi mowa zidadzetsa mavuto enanso; kuyimitsidwa kwa sukulu (pambuyo poti sukulu yanga yatulutsidwa ku Sydney Art Museum nditafika ndikuledzera wakhungu), kugwiririra chigawenga (ndili chidakwa), ndinathamangitsidwa kumalo osungirako nyama (chifukwa cha kuledzera komanso momwe ndimakhudzira okhalamo ena / alendo) komanso zochitika zingapo zofananazo ndimakakamizidwa ndimankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena mowa omwe adandisokoneza kwambiri pamoyo wanga.

Izi zidandisinthira ndili ndi zaka 19 pomwe ndidakhala mkhristu. Zitatha izi ndinathandizidwa ndi tchalitchi changa ndipo ndinasiya kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo komanso mowa. Nditakhala kuti ndakhazikika mokwanira ndidatha kugwiritsa ntchito mbiri yanga yomwe ndimakhulupirira kuti idandiyipa ndipo idandisokoneza pankhani yokhudza kugonana. Tchalitchi changa, panthawiyo, chinandithandiza ndi upangiri ndikupeza zothandizira ndi mautumiki omwe angandithandizire paulendo wanga. Izi zinali zothandiza kwambiri, ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti zidapulumutsa moyo wanga.

Nditalandira thandizo ili ndinapita ku Yunivesite ngati mwana wazaka zakubadwa komanso nditamaliza maphunziro, nditatha zaka za 4, ndili ndi Degree in Social Work (ulemu gulu loyamba) sindikukhulupirira kuti zikadatheka kuti ndikwaniritse izi popanda thandizo lomwe ndidalandira kutchalitchi ndi mautumiki osiyanasiyana achikristu ndi zothandizira zomwe zimandithandiza kudziwa malingaliro anga okonda kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Thandizo lomwe ndidalandira lidandithandiza kusankha mwanzeru zamtsogolo momwe ndimadzifunira ndekha komanso lidandipatsa zida zomwe ndimafunikira pakudziyimira ndekha.

Ndikhulupirira kuti anthu ali ndi ufulu wosankha njira zawo komanso kuti ufulu wa kuyankhula komanso mwayi wodziwa zambiri ndizofunikira. Ku Yunivesite nthawi zambiri tinkayerekezera malingaliro ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana, omwenso ndichinthu chofunikira komanso choganiza monga kugonana, ayenera kukhala ndi mwayi womwewo. Kodi ine, monga amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sindimakopa Mkristu, ndili ndi ufulu kupeza chothandizira chilichonse chomwe ndimachiona chothandiza, ngakhale chili chosiyana ndi momwe ambiri amawonera.

Sylvester.

Posachedwa pakhala kukakamizidwa ndi maulamuliro osiyanasiyana azamalamulo mdziko lonse komanso padziko lonse kuti aletse zotchedwa 'kutembenuka' kapena chithandizo chobwereza kuthandiza anthu kusiya kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso kuti asakhalenso ndi zikhumbozi. Ndikulakalaka kufalitsa umboni wanga pazakuchiritsidwaku chifukwa ndine munthu yemwe ndapeza mwayi wogwiritsa ntchito mankhwalawa. Ndikadaletsedwa kuchita izi moyo wanga, komanso wa ena, ndikadakhala woperewera.

Ndine wina yemwe wakopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo (ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha), ndipo nthawi ina amakhala motere pafupifupi zaka zisanu. Ndimapitilizabe kukhala ndi zikhumbo zosafunikira motero sindimafunanso kukhala nawo. Zifukwa zanga zosafunira zikhumbo izi ndichifukwa 1) Ndine Mkristu ndipo ndimatsatira mawu a ziphunzitso za Mbuye wanga ndi Mpulumutsi Yesu Khristu - womwe ndi ufulu wanga wa demokalase komanso chidziwitso changa - komanso 2) chifukwa nditakhala wokonda kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndidapeza chidwi chodziwonongera ndekha komanso kwa omwe ndidali kuchita nawo.

Kwa pafupifupi zaka zisanu ndinakhala wokonda kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndipo pamapeto pake ndinasiya. Komabe, mosiyana ndi nthano yotchuka, sindinapange chisankhochi chifukwa ndinazunzidwa; sizinapangidwe chifukwa cha 'Homophobia' (chilichonse chomwe chingatanthauze) sizinapangidwe chifukwa tchalitchi chandiukira; ndipo sizinapangidwe kokha chifukwa Bayibulo linandiuza kuti ndichite (ngakhale zinali zofunikira kwambiri) ndinayima chifukwa moona mtima sindinkafunanso kukhala mwanjira imeneyi. Ndidawona kuti zachiwerewere ndizowononga chifukwa nthawi yomwe ndidalimo, sindidapeza chisangalalo, kukwaniritsa zogonana, kapena munthu yemwe nditha kugawana naye moyo; M'malo mwake, ndidakumana ndi amuna omwe mayina awo sindimawadziwa komanso komwe ndimakhala ndimakhala ndikuopa kuti mwina nditha kukhala ndi HIV / Edzi. Ndidapeza anthu omwe amangokonda "kukhala ndi moyo" komanso zochepa. Mu nthawi imeneyo, ndidakhala kapolo wofuna kudzikondera ndikudziyipitsa pomwe ena adadzinyenga okha pachiyembekezo chopeza bambo wina yemwe akanandipatsa chikondi chomwe ndimafuna kwambiri. Ndidakhala osowa kwambiri, wamwano, komanso wadzikonda, ndipo ndinali wotanganidwa kuyimba mlandu anthu ena mu mkwiyo wanga chifukwa cha moyo wanga.

Pambuyo pake, ndidasiya zonsezo. Panopa ndili ndi zaka zanga 40 ndipo ndakwatiwa ndi ana awiri koma ndimafunabe kukhala wopanda zokopa zomwe ndimakhala nazo. Pofuna kundithandiza ndi zogonana zanga zosafunikira, ndakhala ndikupita kumisonkhano yopemphera komanso mautumiki achikristu odzipereka kuthandiza anthu kuti azigonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Pambuyo pake ndidakumana ndi wothandizira wachikhristu, yemwe ndimamuwonekerabe, kuti andithandizire kuthana ndi zomwe zimayambitsa chibwenzi changa chifukwa ndimafunitsitsadi kuti ndikhale wopanda zilako lako. Palibe umodzi mwa mauthengawa ndi othandizira omwe adandikakamiza ine kapena wina aliyense kuti asiyane ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha: Ine ndi ena omwe timakhala nawo timakhalapo modzifunira. Ndipo ndi othandiza. Ndadzipeza ndekha, chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito zinthu ngati izi, kutaya zokopa zanga zomwe ndimagonana ndimomwe ndimakhala pafupipafupi komanso mwamphamvu. Andithandizanso kuthana ndi mavuto enanso ambiri monga kusaleza mtima, mantha, kusatekeseka, kudzikayikira, kudzimva mkwiyo, kukwiya komanso kusowa chiyembekezo.

Zimandivuta kukhulupirira kuti maboma akuganiza ngakhale zoletsa zinthu ngati izi. Ngati wina lero akufuna kusintha kugonana kwawo kwachilengedwe, boma silikhala ndi vuto ndi chifukwa chake, bwanji kuletsa chithandizo chothandizira anthu omwe akukopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha? Ngati mayi akufuna kuchitidwa opaleshoni yodzikongoletsa kuti asinthe nkhope, bwanji sizosemphana ndi malamulo? Ngati bambo akufuna kulimbana ndi uchidakwa ndipo akufuna kulandira upangiri (womwe ndi mtundu wina wa mankhwala obwezeretsanso, ziribe kanthu kuti dzina lake ndi chiyani "chidziwitso chamankhwala"), saloledwa kulandira thandizo lomwe akufuna? Ngati anthu ena akufuna kuti azichita za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso omwe amapanga chisankho, ndipo ali ndi ufulu kutsatira chisankhocho; Kunena zoona, kutsatsa kumeneku ku Sydney komwe kukulepheretsa pulogalamu ya "Gay ndi Lesbian Mardi Gras" (osatchulanso pulogalamu ya "Sukulu Zotetezeka") ndikulimbikitsa anthu kuti aziona kuti kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi njira ina yabwino. Nanga ndichifukwa chiyani boma likuyesera kundikakamiza kuti ndisankhe zina ndi moyo wanga ndikuchepetsa zosankha zanga? Kwa ine, izi ndizopanda tsankho, zopanda chilungamo, komanso zachinyengo. Monga okhometsa msonkho komanso nzika yomwe ili ndi ufulu wolumikizana komanso kuyankhula, ndikuyembekeza kuti ndizitha kuchita zomwe ndikufuna, ndikupeza thandizo lomwe ndikufunika kuchita. Zomwezi sizilepheretsa ena ufulu wawo wokhala amuna kapena akazi okhaokha monga angafune - ndikulola ine (ndi ena) kukhala moyo womwe ndimasankha, womwe palibe wina aliyense amene angandiuze momwe ndingakhalire.

Chifukwa chake ndikulimbikitsa boma lonse, andale, atsogoleri ammadera ndi maboma kuti achotse chithandizo chokha popewa kuchita zosemphana ndi malamulo, kuti ateteze ufulu wachipembedzo, komanso asamangidwe ogwidwa ndi anthu ochepa omwe akutsutsana nawo poletsa zinthu zomwe amadana, ndipo sazindikira. Kuletsa koteroko kukanachitika sikungopangitsa kuti mankhwala azichitika mosaloledwa, koma kungodzibweretsera ine ndi ena pakupanga zisankho zenizeni zademokalase pamiyoyo yathu. Kodi ndi ndani omwe amandiwuza momwe ndiyenera kukhalira moyo wanga?